Help – I Need Some Motivation!
“I need some motivation. I currently need to lose 10lbs per doctors order. I would love to lose a little bit more. I won’t lie, I seem to come up with many excuses why I can’t workout. I can use some advice…what can you tel me……thanks” ~ UnMotivated Mom
I am inviting you into a conversation I had with an unmotivated Mom on the FYM Facebook page.
My hopes are that it will give you some ideas for strategies you can use when you feel you just can’t get motivated – maybe even share some of your own and together we can create a great resource for Moms who need a little motivation to either Get Started….or….Keep Going.
So, after the UnMotivated Mom asked this very general and open ended question, I had to ask for more information to be clear on what it was she was looking for….
Me: I would love to help but I am not too sure what you want me to tell you….if you could be more specific.
UnMotivated Mom: “well, I no longer know what to do to lose this weight.
I use to be able to lose weight with just running but for the past three years that just doesn’t do it. I have been told to cut on carbs, but bewing a runne I have always eaten carbs. I only drink water 8-9 glasses a day. And I do Zumba on Wii on and off. At this point I have just given up hope of ever losing this weight. I use to be a size 6 now I am a size 12. I love the will you have and you seem to do different exercises daily. Should I exercise everyday? Do different exercise? I am just so confused and frustrated.”
(***the beauty of Facebook allows me to take a quick glance at this mom’s FB page and get an idea of what she’s been up to – which allows me to give the following suggestions based on her current situation***)
Me: Thanks for the added info. Gives me direction on where to go – and just a forewarning….my advice is not for everyone – so if it does not sit well with you, this is okay…just a sign I am not the right resource for you at this time. If you are open to it – here we go….
Comes from your reasons WHY.
If a Dr. telling you that it is imperative for health reasons that you lose the weight – and this does not do it for you…then here are 2 more strategies that just might jar you to take the RIGHT action.
- Make a list of the consequence you face by continuing to do what you’ve always done….where are you headed by not making a change for the better.
- Look into the eyes of yor 2 year old daughter and ask yourself – is this the lifestyle you wish to teach her – to grow up and follow in your footsteps? To think that weight loss is all about cardio and dieting? To despise vegetables, to eat a diet primarily of carbs? Take a look at the list you made above again – is this also what you want her to see you go through? To think its just Okay to give up on taking better care of yourself?
You can tell your daughter the right way to live until you are blue in the face – reality is – your actions have the biggest impact on what she is learning.
And if this does not get you…then I am at a loss.
2. Losing 10 Pounds
Very rarely would a Dr advise you to “lose weight” and expect you to do it through exercise alone.
Health issues are mainly caused by the eating habits we have established over the years. Yes moving your body is important to staying healthy – however the bulk of your results – both weight loss and health related will be achieved by getting honest about your eating habits.
And let’s get real about the advice you have been receiving about what it takes to lose 10 pounds quickly (her FB friends were suggesting 2 weeks of P90x and cutting out all carbs)- extreme workouts are a quick fix. What happens when you stop working out?
Where will you be then?
Hopefully this is more than enough to get you thinking…and begin taking action.
Once again, if what I have said is not what you are ready to face or hear, then this is not the right place for you. I do however I appreciate taking a big step forward and asking…if anything maybe it will save another mom out there.
Be Careful of Making Excuses
I also want to point out that it’s also an excuse when you find yourself saying….
“I don’t know what to do to lose weight”
Think about what this sounds like.
Yes you do have the knowledge. At the very least you know what you have been doing is NOT working – and this is a HUGE start to doing it Differently.
If eating too many processed carbs, not enough veggies and just doing cardio is stalling your ability to get results – then a wouldn’t a first step be to cut down the processed carbs, increase your veggies and choose a workout plan that helps boost your metabolism and get stronger?
Be careful of such Excuses – they rob you of the power to do something about it.
Make Motivation Happen
I would also add that Motivation is NOT something that “just happens” to you…rather it is a CHOICE you make Every Day – as the motivational poster states above. Sitting back and waiting for it to happen is the perfect recipe for NO Motivation.
Keep Your Goals In Your Sights
Other than the big steps outlined above, you can also create a Vision Board of your Goals. Turn what it is you are working hard to achieve into a poster filled with visual images and empowering quotes that you hang somewhere that you can look at it several times a day.
Keeping your goals IN SIGHT at ALL TIMES makes a Big Difference to your focus and motivation.
Focus On The Benefits
Also, as a flip to considering the consequences, make a list of all the positive benefits of choosing healthy foods and choosing to workout. Try Visualizing what it feels like after your workout – the burst of energy, the feel of a tighter, stronger body – is a great motivational strategy.
If I’m having one of those days, here is what I do to get myself motivated to workout.
I tell myself that ALL I have to do is one super set – then I can go about whatever it is I need to be doing. Cool thing is – once I get going, I feel better and I remember why I enjoy my workouts so much – and say Why NOT complete your full workout? Then I am Proud of myself for doing even MORE than what I initially promised.
When it comes to Eating – this is a habit that takes time to establish. There are days that yes I may have one too many UNsuppotive foods – however, I do not feel my best after this and look forward to getting back on track. The key is not to allow a Slip Up to turn into a year’s worth of unhealthy habits. Each minute, each hour, each day – you have a CHOICE to turn it around.
So let me ask you – when it comes to motivation what advice would you give?
Great news is that UnMotivated Mom did reply….
“Thank you, this was the wake up call I needed. You are right, the fact that my Dr. said I need to lose the weight should be enough. But its hards sometimes when I want to eat the right foods and my husband decides to buy take out. I wish I could say that I am strong enough to say no to bad foods.
And I do want my daughter to have good eating habits, as of now she is the pickest eater out of my three kids. I know that I def need to eat more veggies, and I need to cut big time on my carbs. I will write down the reason for losing the weight and post it on fridge. Thanks for taking the time to talk to me and give me your input. I will keep you posted on my progress.”
Great to know she has begun to find the drive that will help her to be more aware of the choices she is making and focus on the small steps she can take each day – that will add up to positive, healthy, life changing results.